You are going out to have dinner with your boyfriend and with another friend. You get the bill. Who pays?
Where I’m from, everyone just pays their own part. Sometimes the boyfriend invites, and sometimes the girlfriend invites too. But usually my boyfriend and I always split the costs. It would just not be fair for him to pay each time when going for dinner. I would not even want that and I would not want to pay for his dinner each time either. We usually just split the cost of the bill into half.
We went for dinner with a chinese friend. When we asked for the bill she calculated the price. It was 26 Yuan for her and then she told my boyfriend that it was 52 Yuan for him. I was ready to give her my part of the money. I think I tried like three times to pay my part but all the time she pointed to my boyfriend and telling him that he has to pay 52 Yuan.
By the way we communicate with a translator machine because she can’t speak much English and my Chinese is still not good enough haha. Just so you can imagine that communication wasn’t easy either.
So my boyfriend paid 52 Yuan and I then gave him the half of it. The chinese friend seemed surprised. For me it was just the normal thing to do.
One day later when we met again she asked me why I paid my own bill and if my boyfriend and I always “go dutch”. I explained her that I don’t want him to pay and that it’s just not fair for the guy to pay all the time. I told her that this is very normal in Austria. She was really surprised and told me that here in China the boyfriends always pay everything …poor guys haha.